Let’s talk about it.

Because honestly? It’s getting tired. Played out. Predictable. You hit up a bunch of trans girls on Grindr, like you're speed-dialing some secret fantasy list, only to chat with half of them, make vague plans with a quarter of them, and then ghost the rest like Casper with commitment issues.

And we’re just supposed to smile through it? Nah. Not today.

🚩 What Kind of Behavior Is This?

Let’s name it for what it is—a blend of:

• Curiosity without courage – You're intrigued, sure. But you haven't done the internal work to treat your attraction like something worthy of respect. Trans women are not your midnight Google search come to life.

• Fetishization – You're chasing a fantasy, not a person. You love the idea of us but disappear when you realize we're real, with boundaries, with voices, with standards.

• Shame-fueled flirtation – Some of y’all are attracted but terrified of what that says about you. So instead of doing the shadow work, you disappear the moment things get real. We’re not your mirror, your therapy, or your dirty little secret.

• Low-effort app culture – Let’s be honest: apps like Grindr make flakiness easy. Too many swipe for sport, not sincerity. They treat conversation like a game of Pokémon, gotta message ’em all, ghost 'em fast.

But let’s be crystal clear: Trans women deserve better. Always have. Always will.

💔 Why It Hits Different for Trans Women

This isn’t just dating. It’s emotional labor. It’s safety. It’s dignity. When you ghost or flake, you're not just skipping a coffee date, you’re reinforcing a narrative that says we’re disposable. That our time, our hopes, our humanity don’t matter.

We carry enough. We don’t need to carry your shame, too.

💡 What We Want (And Frankly, Deserve)

We’re not asking for the moon. We’re asking for:

• Respect.

• Consistency.

• Follow-through.

If you’re not ready to show up with honesty and intention, don’t show up at all. It’s not edgy or mysterious to disappear. It’s cowardly. And it’s boring.

🔥 To the Trans Women Reading This:

You are not a phase. You are not a fantasy. You are not a test run for someone else’s sexual awakening.

You are real.
You are worthy.
You are the damn prize, not some consolation for someone else's confusion.

So hold your standards high. Filter out the nonsense. Ask the tough questions. Let them flake, because every time they ghost, you get closer to someone who won’t.

And to those still playing games?

📢 Say it louder:

If you’re not ready for a trans woman, stop knocking on our digital doors like you are.